It’s another morning in your world. You are sipping coffee in between packing lunch and preparing breakfast. You accidentally burn the top of your mouth while your child is asking for more pancakes and no kiwi, and also demanding “read me a story” and next the daily statement “I don’t want to go to school today”.
Now say: “It’s another morning, yes, in my world, and I need a pause”.
Sometimes we just need to stop whatever we are doing, even when we think it’s the middle of everything we need to get done within the next twenty minutes. Even if we need to attend to our child when he or she is done in the bathroom, or find the lovey who will come to school. Despite needing to put warm clothes on and tie shoes. We want to make everything around us just stop. And what we actually need to achieve is the pause in ourselves.
Pausing means taking a deep breath, exiting the room for a minute or so, finding ground again, just like when we were learning to swim and it felt so relieving when our feet would find the bottom of the swimming pool. The point is to learn and train our anxious selves to use certain tools that can make things easier.
Going back to the “every day race”, that’s when we need to take out the little notebook and say out loud: “Lets read an inspirational quote”. Yes! Trust this and make bets on it, no matter how ridiculous it can sound to your tired, disbelieving ears. An inspirational phrase has proven to empower the most exhausted human beings. Your child might say “It’s a very little notebook”. And now you will reply: “With very big words”.
Read in a loud, firm and gentle voice: “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”. Written by Dr. Seuss, in the book Oh, The Places You’ll Go!
Finally, before walking out, suggest: “When we come back from school, we are going to decorate this notebook together. You can use markers, stickers, sequins, color paper cuts, glitter glue”. (Yes, you read correctly, take the chance today, offer glitter glue!). “We will give this Little Book of Big Words nice covers and comfy jackets to protect the quotes we will write and read every day”.
Kidness suggests some quotes to get you started:
“Listen to the mustn’ts, child. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me… Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.”
― Shel Silverstein
– “Gubble gubble gubble I’m a mubble in a pubble. I can play I’m anything that’s anything. That’s MY way.”
― Ruth Krauss, I Can Fly
-“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think”.
-“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
– “Be Silly, Be Honest, Be Kind.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
-“Creativity takes courage”
— Henri Matisse
– “You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore.”
― William Faulkner
-“Nothing is built on stone; All is built on sand, but we must build as if the sand were stone.”
― Jorge Luis Borges
-“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
– “But then I realized, what do they really know? This is MY idea, I thought. No one knows it like I do. And it’s okay if it’s different, and weird, and maybe a little crazy.”
—What Do You Do With an Idea? by Kobi Yamada